BiggChungus
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- Jun 18, 2024
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interesting. that makes sense now.Sorry I'll try to be more clear.
What I meant by "out of the blue" is that you wont recieve messages through connect unless your account is bumped, and you bump your account by being active and responding to people.
I have probably messaged like 10 people first and that was pretty much all on my first day, every other message I've gotten was someone else opening.
When I want to get more messages I respond to 10 or so of the openers I got that I wasn't interested in, if it's at peak time the account bump usually gets me maybe 10 new openers, and then the people I responded to usually respond back, giving me like +~20 messages total which is how they accumulate.
Out of the new 10 or so that opened I'll usually pick one I like and progress with them, and then leave the rest for the next account bump.
I currently have 211 messages by doing this but a lot of those are double messages or dudes so keep that in mind. Hope that helps.
that's really weird. I should have figured something strange was going on with the algo. I am fairly fluent so I tend to go straight into calls after 3 messages or so. I also tend to spam approach because I dont have to time to respond to every single message.
from what you're saying, it sounds like the algo punishes people for copy paste messages, punishes for calling, possibly. probably punishes for fluency, as it would probably lessen the women's engagement with the paid features. maybe I am getting punished because it thinks I am korean. there might be some other factor that is fucking me over. maybe because I tend to switch to kakaotalk fairly quickly. maybe it is dinging my elo. I noticed I was getting more messages when I first started my chadfish account. and then slowly people stopped messaging me out of nowhere. Probably I am accumulating penalties to my account.
I should have figured their algo would reward people that stoke more engagement out of women. this is interesting information. I never would have guessed you could get so many unsolicited messages. that seems like a lot. more than most of the other standard dating apps aside from tinder.
just to be clear, how long to you engage in messages with the women before calling or switching to other apps. do you ONLY message them during peak hours?
as far as building experience, I guess you're young. whatever women you end up with will eventually do something completely intolerable because you refused to set boundaries. from then on she will never respectyou again, in ways that are subtle to normies, and it will get worse until you go insane or you force yourself to break up with her. very few dudes really have to stomach to be cold to women before they go through this formational experience. dont feel like you need to rush it. I dont really think calling for 5 hours is that bad. but if you're spending that much time you should probably just go there and be with her. if you like her just do what is fun for you for the moment.