Vent hellotalk and tandem became difficult within the past year. what's next?

[geneblackman]

too many indians and arabs, plus too many asian scammers pretending to be white guys plus the effortpill has hit its apex. once htns start throwing away free attention to ethnics it's already gg which is what's happening

you need to looks min on these apps to be successful in 2025 leading into 2026 and beyond. when these broads see a clean shaven aryan with perfect facial harmony show up randomly in their dms on a LANGUAGE LEARNING APP they get suspicious and/or intimidated because most of the guys are ugly plus asians are used to getting scammed by fake male profiles. so now you have to 1) prove you're not a scammer and 2) put in effort. i don't like putting in effort. if you're good looking your only options are the small majority of good looking women on HT and tandem. maybe hiding half of your face would help

fuck passportbros

where do we go from here? dating apps suck. is it time to buy a padded IG and tiktok for japs, koreans and taiwanese?

 

[Yuezhi]

Daygame is king

 

[blatonslatt]

hellotalk is easier than ever & it's grown alot in userbase this year

 

[geneblackman]

it's easy for latin america and china but my post is mainly regarding japan, korea and europe. some 4/10 jap thought i was a scammer and blocked me and 4-5/10 euro women have also blocked me. mtbs know they're easy targets at this point

 

[geneblackman]

also i wanted to highlight the effortpill. if you just say hi how are you to japs and koreans then you get a poor to decent response rate while with white women the response rate will be 0. you need to actually comment something on their profile or interests to have a higher response rate

 

[blatonslatt]

it's easy for latin america and china but my post is mainly regarding japan, korea and europe. some 4/10 jap thought i was a scammer and blocked me and 4-5/10 euro women have also blocked me. mtbs know they're easy targets at this point

i changed my language learning to korean and im getting tons of messages from them

 

[geneblackman]

i changed my language learning to korean and im getting tons of messages from them

can you post convos i need to compare

 

[SM55]

it's easy for latin america and china but my post is mainly regarding japan, korea and europe. some 4/10 jap thought i was a scammer and blocked me and 4-5/10 euro women have also blocked me. mtbs know they're easy targets at this point

Korean and Japanese are the most popular Asian women, you'll see anytime a women post on HT regardless if its selfie or something dumb it'll get hundreds of likes and I started noticing this after that update that changed the UI and had that tinder like feature. Like @Yuezhi said in person is the best option with the quality of online dating gone down and way too many people in DMs. With that said I feel if you're white your other competition is other white dudes, since the words gotten out.

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[geneblackman]

Korean and Japanese are the most popular Asian women, you'll see anytime a women post on HT regardless if its selfie or something dumb it'll get hundreds of likes and I started noticing this after that update that changed the UI and had that tinder like feature. Like @Yuezhi said in person is the best option with the quality of online dating gone down and way too many people in DMs. With that said I feel if you're white your other competition is other white dudes, since the words gotten out.

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yeah that's true. sometimes i get random messages from them months later simply because their inboxes are always at 999+

a lot of them just seem overwhelmed so that's why i've been trying to put more effort into the first message but even then i get more messages back from htbs than from mtbs. i've seen the competition on hellotalk and it's not very difficult to be honest. i think indians, pakistanis and arabs are just fucking everything up for people like they did with interpals

 

[geneblackman]

i've been putting more effort into my first messages instead of just saying hi how are you and my success has gone up with questions being asked back and sometimes double texted

false alarm

 

[OliveNotBrown]

how do you measure your success on hellotalk, i downloaded it when u suggested it to me and i found a cute int. student in my state, idk how to ask her out tho

 

[geneblackman]

how do you measure your success on hellotalk, i downloaded it when u suggested it to me and i found a cute int. student in my state, idk how to ask her out tho

just start talking to her and ask her what she's studying. girls on this app tend to be higher iq than average so don't start flirting or ask them out too soon. eventually (after two weeks or so) you can ask if she wants to meet up for a language exchange or if she needs someone to show her around then take it from there

i measure success by how many good looking women respond to me and how many girls ask if im single/flirt with me because women dont want to talk to ugly guys

just try to be their friend first and let your face do the talking

 

[OliveNotBrown]

just start talking to her and ask her what she's studying. girls on this app tend to be higher iq than average so don't start flirting or ask them out too soon. eventually (after two weeks or so) you can ask if she wants to meet up for a language exchange or if she needs someone to show her around then take it from there

i measure success by how many good looking women respond to me and how many girls ask if im single/flirt with me because women dont want to talk to ugly guys

just try to be their friend first and let your face do the talking

yea ive been talking to her for like 2 days, got her instagram, i have trouble keeping up an interesting convo for a longer than a day in general though

 

[geneblackman]

i have trouble keeping up an interesting convo for a longer than a day in general though

it doesnt have to be interesting all the time, just engaging. ask her opinion on world politics, her favorite books, her hobbies etc and try to get more personal when the time is right

 

[geneblackman]

the hellotalk tag on rednote is brutal. the sisters found an indian who's larping as a spaniard living in the US lmfao