Tandem is decent

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I was just reading @Rance post about China and it reminded me of Tandem when I tried it in 2024 and its potential. I think the quality of girls is on there is decent. There are a lot of ogre femcels on Tandem of course, but that goes for all apps similar to it. These girls are very attention hungry, so take advantage of that when you travel to China. I noticed when briefly chatting to some of them that they are eager to meet up as well. Also the Europe idolization is really funny. Make sure to abuse this by showing your Euro features in the pics (if you are white). It's kind of a niche cheatcode for slaying I would say, especially if you're looking for girls out of the major cities like Shanghai, Beijing, HK. Many Chengdu girls on that for example. Just keep in mind that the algorithm only pushes your profile if you are active. I found that it suddenly stops raining messages when I never respond, which is only logical IMO. Active = algo pushing IF your profile is good enough, not active = profile hidden. So I kind of nerfed my own reach by never responding on there. Just cba when I am not even there.

Anyway, people rarely post actual results/examples of the girls, so you be the judge here. Like I said, I think the quality is ok. Nothing special, but I think the easy slay potential is good. Also didn't optimize my profile for attracting girls, I initially just wanted to learn some Chinese lmao. I know for a fact I could get much better results if I actively use it and optimize my profile, so I suggest you do the same if you travel there.
 

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I do agree that Tandem is pretty solid. When I was active on the app I had good looking women message me first and also reply to me frequently when the algo pushed me up the queue. I think blue eye halo did a lot of the work for me.

You're unlikely to come across any knockouts on these language apps in general and to be honest I'm very suspicious of the profiles that are. But these women also tend to be higher IQ and more interesting, in general, than those on dating apps and it's absolutely possible to build a relationship with one.

One problem is that Italians and Turks are hitting on every woman they come across which is putting many women's guards up.
 
I do agree that Tandem is pretty solid. When I was active on the app I had good looking women message me first and also reply to me frequently when the algo pushed me up the queue. I think blue eye halo did a lot of the work for me.

You're unlikely to come across any knockouts on these language apps in general and to be honest I'm very suspicious of the profiles that are. But these women also tend to be higher IQ and more interesting, in general, than those on dating apps and it's absolutely possible to build a relationship with one.

One problem is that Italians and Turks are hitting on every woman they come across which is putting many women's guards up.
Definitely higher IQ yea and the hottest girls are obviously not going to be on language apps thirsting. My hinge and bumble matches are significantly better looking
 
how big is the impact of paying for the pro account? @nomad @Rance @geneblackman
Worth it on HelloTalk. I'm much more skeptical about how useful Tandem's paid service is.

One huge thing that will make or break it for you: Tandem pro will allow you to see users near you, something which is free on HelloTalk.
 
I would say just get a burner phone and escalate immediately to weed out time wasters. I wouldnt worry about pro. you will get banned eventually but the value is more in the time than the money.
 
I would say just get a burner phone and escalate immediately to weed out time wasters. I wouldnt worry about pro. you will get banned eventually but the value is more in the time than the money.
Good strat if you are Chadlite+ otherwise you are wasting your time. Like I said in the HT thread, many of these girls who will sleep with you do not even know they want to sleep with you until you meet. Their minds are in "language exchange" mode and they will deflect direct advances.
 
Good strat if you are Chadlite+ otherwise you are wasting your time. Like I said in the HT thread, many of these girls who will sleep with you do not even know they want to sleep with you until you meet. Their minds are in "language exchange" mode and they will deflect direct advances.
what percentage of your meetups lead to sex, would you say?

my general thinking is that around half of women wouldn't meet with you in the first place if they didnt have sex in the back of their minds. I feel like hiding your intentions might actually work better for someone higher than HTN than for an HTN. for an HTN or lower I feel like a stronger frame is needed to set the tone and let her know how she is supposed to feel about you. for someone better looking for an HTN the women will fill the gaps with her imagination on her own, which she would totally not do for a MTN

I'm thinking about your HT thread again. what you say makes sense. I have to think about it. It just seems like conversely maybe it works for you because you are slightly higher than HTN. I definitely dont think you need to be chadlite in order to go the steamroller route, you're just obviously going to strike out a lot more.
 
I would say just get a burner phone and escalate immediately to weed out time wasters. I wouldnt worry about pro. you will get banned eventually but the value is more in the time than the money.
I disagree. First off, many women on these apps are already on guard due to the constant stream of messages from Indians, Pakistanis, Turks and Italians who go right in. Second, many of these women are higher than average IQ so unless you're prime Dicaprio then there's no point in being that direct.

If you're able to keep her talking with you then eventually she'll ask YOU for your contact information, make references or jokes about meeting up or otherwise make it very obvious she's into you.
 
what percentage of your meetups lead to sex, would you say?
This is the best part -- easily 50%. Some were same-day lays, most were not.

my general thinking is that around half of women wouldn't meet with you in the first place if they didnt have sex in the back of their minds. I feel like hiding your intentions might actually work better for someone higher than HTN than for an HTN. for an HTN or lower I feel like a stronger frame is needed to set the tone and let her know how she is supposed to feel about you. for someone better looking for an HTN the women will fill the gaps with her imagination on her own, which she would totally not do for a MTN
It's entirely possible I'm misjudging my SMV. I still haven't got a good grasp on it. I can tell you I'm no higher than a 6 in the West, barely passing as HTN and arguably not really at all... like a 5.8. I think my features result in an unusually high SMV boost because they fit the Japan beauty standard really well.

For all the game I've done in Japan I've never really figured out how much sex everyone else was having. Guys would boast about how they slept with so many beautiful women all the time, and if I took this at face value, then my results would seem below average in comparison.

I'm thinking about your HT thread again. what you say makes sense. I have to think about it. It just seems like conversely maybe it works for you because you are slightly higher than HTN. I definitely dont think you need to be chadlite in order to go the steamroller route, you're just obviously going to strike out a lot more.
On second thought your analysis seems to make sense as well. We'd really need to see results from multiple guys with different looks levels and different HT styles to make heads or tails of it.
 
I disagree. First off, many women on these apps are already on guard due to the constant stream of messages from Indians, Pakistanis, Turks and Italians who go right in. Second, many of these women are higher than average IQ so unless you're prime Dicaprio then there's no point in being that direct.

If you're able to keep her talking with you then eventually she'll ask YOU for your contact information, make references or jokes about meeting up or otherwise make it very obvious she's into you.
If she's willing to meet up with a random guy from a language app, she is most likely down to fuck IF you're not an absolute retarded autist irl. It's not rocket science
 
If she's willing to meet up with a random guy from a language app, she is most likely down to fuck IF you're not an absolute retarded autist irl. It's not rocket science
pretty much, they are open to fuck if they meet 1 on 1, you just need to not fuck it up
 
I disagree. First off, many women on these apps are already on guard due to the constant stream of messages from Indians, Pakistanis, Turks and Italians who go right in. Second, many of these women are higher than average IQ so unless you're prime Dicaprio then there's no point in being that direct.

If you're able to keep her talking with you then eventually she'll ask YOU for your contact information, make references or jokes about meeting up or otherwise make it very obvious she's into you.
i have to agree, its not a dating app where you can be direct
you need to play the pretend game
 

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