putting effort into messages is jestering

[geneblackman]

you really shouldn't be sending out first messages at all in an ideal world but if it's over one sentence long with an emoji or exclamation point then you're jestering. women are doing the choosing now and if you're sending a message that's just "hey how are you" then this is a low preselection signal. the effortpill is brutal in 2026 and you can all thank indians, pakis turks, italians and arabs for that

 

[AlexBrown84]

nah bro you just gotta rizz them, optimize your profile, use ai, and have funny catchy prompts

 

[14passport]

you really shouldn't be sending out first messages at all in an ideal world but if it's over one sentence long with an emoji or exclamation point then you're jestering. women are doing the choosing now and if you're sending a message that's just "hey how are you" then this is a low preselection signal. the effortpill is brutal in 2026 and you can all thank indians, pakis turks, italians and arabs for that

it is but what can you do?
you are either very attractive or need to jester with your messages

 

[geneblackman]

it is but what can you do?
you are either very attractive or need to jester with your messages

it's understandable that first messages need to be sent out but they need to be casual and they have to be somewhat demeaning in the sense that she needs to think you're sending these messages out just to kill time until your main bitch responds back

 

[14passport]

it's understandable that first messages need to be sent out but they need to be casual and they have to be somewhat demeaning in the sense that she needs to think you're sending these messages out just to kill time until your main bitch responds back

you need a minimum level of being performative and jestering if you want good results
and it doesnt have to take a lot of time to send something good that stands out from 99% of guys being sexual on the first message or sending hi/how r u

you just need to be smart about it, see what works for you and be realistic and filter

 

[OnlyWs]

yup but water