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So ive been reading about geomaxxing for some time, and i understand the idea behind it and it honestly makes a lot of sense for a lot of situations, however my situation is a bit different. I am from Argentina and live in Buenos Aires, which is a huge south american city, i dont think many people are from latin american in this forum, let alone Argentina lol.

I would rate the city a 5/10 in terms of dating difficulty, not as easy as asian countries like philipines or thailand where it seems you get 100 matches on tinder per hour, but not all that hard like in the USA, Uk, Sweden, etc. On a daily basis you see a lot of couples on the street where the man is worse looking than the girl / the same looks. If you dont believe it check the 4k walking vids of BA there are plenty, and you will be realize theres not THAT many good looking guys here, and girls imo are hot as fuck (defo my type)

I read a lot about people recommending going to asia, but i dont think thats the case for me, im a bit lost regarding what i wanna do in that case, a flight to go to any asian country takes like 30 hours minimum from down here, with 2 layovers, moreover its expensive for most of us (a round trip costs 2000 dollars, some 2 months of salary), and theres a personal factor in that, i feel i will feel very out of place there, in regards to everything, food, people, language, overall aspect of the city, like i cant imagine myself landing in manila, alone, after 30 uncomfortable hours of flight, with no one to receive me, and saying something like "alright now ill go to my hotel and open tinder to get some matches"

Like i sometimes see the "data" and think thats the path to go, sometimes even the "only" path there is, then i remember i live in south america and realize i dont really need to go to such a far away and different place, where if i wanna go back ill be 20000km away from my home, alone, in such exotic foreign territories.

Now regarding where i stand personally, i will say i tend to be a lil introverted compared to other argentinians, dont get me wrong i understand social cues and slang, and i am pretty street smart HERE in buenos aires (i dont know how i would perform in a city like manila) i got friends and family and such, but i would still realistically regard myself as being half as extroverted as the average argentinian (which is extremely extroverted in a worldwide perspective). Other interesting data would be that im 20 years old, i stand at a 5/10 facially, not a single point above nor below, i am above average height (185cm aprox) and know spanish and english both on a native level.

One of my main concerns is that, i understand the blackpill, geomaxxing, ROI in dating, looksmaxxing and such, but i dont think i got the heart to have my first trip be to a south east asian country, alone, as a 20 year old. I love my city, i love the climate, geography, parks, access to the river, overall culture (futbol, parties, meetings with friends and family) cheap and safe means of public transportation, food, architecture, etc, like i was sort of "blessed" to be born here, but the girls aspect is just not that easy, like i see some other countries and its definetely not as hard, but again, its not SO easy as i would "like" it to be in order to gain experience, and in a way, make up for the lack of in the past. Maybe with some looksmaxxing i could improve, but i dont know, im pretty positive in that i will eventually find someone to marry and have a family here (GOD BLESS), but being inexperienced in all aspects of a relationship is probably not good either.

I havent read from anyone in a similar position as mine, thats why i also wanted to make this post.

I appreciatte any and all advice you can give me, or any comments you can make, sorry for the long post, its just something that i got in my head and want to put into words, see what you guys think about it. cheers!
 
Out of curiosity, have you tried other LATAM countries? Hair and eye color? Can you pass for a Spaniard or Italian?

Considering your age and height you could probably even go to East Asia. What's stopping you from getting women from your country?

Spend time curating your best pictures and a good bio then get on IG/Tiktok and other apps to meet someone from the country first before going through all of that trouble just to land there and end up with nothing
 
i dont think many people are from latin american in this forum
@zaneslayerasianbaddies is Brazilian

im 20 years old, i stand at a 5/10 facially, not a single point above nor below, i am above average height (185cm aprox) and know spanish and english both on a native level.
185 cm is tall in Argentina. since you're still a kid, for now I would focus on maxxing yourself (physique, social skills, career) before taking the plunge to Asia. maybe you're just a bit of a late bloomer.
 
So ive been reading about geomaxxing for some time, and i understand the idea behind it and it honestly makes a lot of sense for a lot of situations, however my situation is a bit different. I am from Argentina and live in Buenos Aires, which is a huge south american city, i dont think many people are from latin american in this forum, let alone Argentina lol.

I would rate the city a 5/10 in terms of dating difficulty, not as easy as asian countries like philipines or thailand where it seems you get 100 matches on tinder per hour, but not all that hard like in the USA, Uk, Sweden, etc. On a daily basis you see a lot of couples on the street where the man is worse looking than the girl / the same looks. If you dont believe it check the 4k walking vids of BA there are plenty, and you will be realize theres not THAT many good looking guys here, and girls imo are hot as fuck (defo my type)

I read a lot about people recommending going to asia, but i dont think thats the case for me, im a bit lost regarding what i wanna do in that case, a flight to go to any asian country takes like 30 hours minimum from down here, with 2 layovers, moreover its expensive for most of us (a round trip costs 2000 dollars, some 2 months of salary), and theres a personal factor in that, i feel i will feel very out of place there, in regards to everything, food, people, language, overall aspect of the city, like i cant imagine myself landing in manila, alone, after 30 uncomfortable hours of flight, with no one to receive me, and saying something like "alright now ill go to my hotel and open tinder to get some matches"

Like i sometimes see the "data" and think thats the path to go, sometimes even the "only" path there is, then i remember i live in south america and realize i dont really need to go to such a far away and different place, where if i wanna go back ill be 20000km away from my home, alone, in such exotic foreign territories.

Now regarding where i stand personally, i will say i tend to be a lil introverted compared to other argentinians, dont get me wrong i understand social cues and slang, and i am pretty street smart HERE in buenos aires (i dont know how i would perform in a city like manila) i got friends and family and such, but i would still realistically regard myself as being half as extroverted as the average argentinian (which is extremely extroverted in a worldwide perspective). Other interesting data would be that im 20 years old, i stand at a 5/10 facially, not a single point above nor below, i am above average height (185cm aprox) and know spanish and english both on a native level.

One of my main concerns is that, i understand the blackpill, geomaxxing, ROI in dating, looksmaxxing and such, but i dont think i got the heart to have my first trip be to a south east asian country, alone, as a 20 year old. I love my city, i love the climate, geography, parks, access to the river, overall culture (futbol, parties, meetings with friends and family) cheap and safe means of public transportation, food, architecture, etc, like i was sort of "blessed" to be born here, but the girls aspect is just not that easy, like i see some other countries and its definetely not as hard, but again, its not SO easy as i would "like" it to be in order to gain experience, and in a way, make up for the lack of in the past. Maybe with some looksmaxxing i could improve, but i dont know, im pretty positive in that i will eventually find someone to marry and have a family here (GOD BLESS), but being inexperienced in all aspects of a relationship is probably not good either.

I havent read from anyone in a similar position as mine, thats why i also wanted to make this post.

I appreciatte any and all advice you can give me, or any comments you can make, sorry for the long post, its just something that i got in my head and want to put into words, see what you guys think about it. cheers!
bro, imo you should try going to another country to meet girls and new places, I've been researching Korea recently and there's definitely no better place to be a young man and date girls than there, I have no desire to go to Southeast Asian countries, I'm improving everything I can for Korea, and man, I'm 5'7, you'll be fine, positive thinking
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Out of curiosity, have you tried other LATAM countries? Hair and eye color? Can you pass for a Spaniard or Italian?

Considering your age and height you could probably even go to East Asia. What's stopping you from getting women from your country?

Spend time curating your best pictures and a good bio then get on IG/Tiktok and other apps to meet someone from the country first before going through all of that trouble just to land there and end up with nothing
I havent tried any LATAM countries yet, i dont know which one could be better i cant seem to find much information about it, it could be a good idea in order to maybe gain more experience in a closer country/city, both physically and culturally. I got brown eyes and black curly hair, definitely spaniard passing, altough im pretty pale now that its winter. I read about East Asia, Japan and Korea sound like good choices too, but then again maybe its too far away from my country. Honestly i have never tried getting women in my country, i dont really know why, i guess a lack of confidence and a lack of "trying" to do so in tinder/IG, i feel i dont want to "experience" with women here, i know it sounds weird af since its such a big city, but i dont want to screw up here so to speak since everyone is so interconnected, all my friends and people i ever met are usually friends with/know people i met in other places, and its all such a big "network" that i feel if you get into a relationship it should usually be to "stay" with it, sure you could change, but people are going to talk about it a lot.

But i do agree that maybe getting at least some experience here could be better, before travelling and doing all that much just to not know how to talk with a girl/start a relationship
 
@zaneslayerasianbaddies is Brazilian


185 cm is tall in Argentina. since you're still a kid, for now I would focus on maxxing yourself (physique, social skills, career) before taking the plunge to Asia. maybe you're just a bit of a late bloomer.
O nice i didnt know someone else from latin america

regarding height i would say its decently tall for argentina but not really all that tall or noticeable, in here the "desired height" is over 180cm (what in the US and other countries would be 6 foot here is more like 5'11), still its a good plus and you "pass" that check, but it still doesnt help you all that much apart from some people rarely asking or commenting about your height, i think i want to looksmax as much as possible as you said in my case that would probably consist of minoxidil in eyebrows + eyelashes, some gym for shoulders and back, neck training, getting a tan, maybe fixing my crooked nose, teeth whitening, haircut, getting better at socializing more casually, building an improved IG/socials in general as the friend said above, and also getting some money, online passive income if possible. Basically maximizing everything as you said before going somewhere like that in asia
 
bro, imo you should try going to another country to meet girls and new places, I've been researching Korea recently and there's definitely no better place to be a young man and date girls than there, I have no desire to go to Southeast Asian countries, I'm improving everything I can for Korea, and man, I'm 5'7, you'll be fine, positive thinking
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thanks for the positivy feedback guys all of you

korea could be good too, mostly because it goes well with the type of lifestyle we are used to and most people want (good quality of cities, good transport, good food, quality stuff), however i thought it would be as hard if not more than in my hometown tho, since most korean people are tall and got such fair skin, as well as a bunch of money, but at the same time foreigners would be pretty exotic there, and since they also got money/a sort of "welfare society" where theres basically no poverty, you can know that attraction to you is real, and they wouldnt be with you just for money/visa/to escape poverty, but rather because you are niche and so, specially with white skin, altough my black curly hair and brown eyes are probably not ideal.

What are your looks overall if you dont mind me asking?, i read that you are brasilian, thyat is so cool to see someone from latin america here, are you white ,black, mulatto? how is the situation like in brasil, here in Buenos Aires brasilians are well received overall in middle/high level neighborhoods, specially if black/mulatto, since you are exotic, however if you go to lower end neighborhoods they might be racist and discrimanate, specially if you are black, and they might call you senegalese or negro its very common. if you are white brasilian then probably dont expect much of a boost in this city, since we already got an "Image" of a brasilian in this country being about this carioca (from Rio de janeiro) who plays futbol all day by the beach, slim with a nice tan and if you dont meet it then its fine but they just see you as another guy
 
I’d say just find some girl from the interior South American countries then bring her to BA where the qol is better

Or just try to get a local girl since you said they date down
 
I havent tried any LATAM countries yet, i dont know which one could be better i cant seem to find much information about it, it could be a good idea in order to maybe gain more experience in a closer country/city, both physically and culturally. I got brown eyes and black curly hair, definitely spaniard passing, altough im pretty pale now that its winter. I read about East Asia, Japan and Korea sound like good choices too, but then again maybe its too far away from my country. Honestly i have never tried getting women in my country, i dont really know why, i guess a lack of confidence and a lack of "trying" to do so in tinder/IG, i feel i dont want to "experience" with women here, i know it sounds weird af since its such a big city, but i dont want to screw up here so to speak since everyone is so interconnected, all my friends and people i ever met are usually friends with/know people i met in other places, and its all such a big "network" that i feel if you get into a relationship it should usually be to "stay" with it, sure you could change, but people are going to talk about it a lot.

But i do agree that maybe getting at least some experience here could be better, before travelling and doing all that much just to not know how to talk with a girl/start a relationship
If it's really how you say it is and good looking women from your city are dating and being loyal to ogres then it could be worth it to at least try something there. If you're worried about being gossiped about then could you try southern Brazil or Chile for practice? Or even another major city in your country?

Anyway, if you do decide on Asia then staying pale is a good thing. You will also want to lead them to believe that you're descended from Spaniards or something because they still have weight there along with Italians. With your height and pheno it should be pretty easy for you to find a woman there

Maybe try the Asian communities in Buenos Aires too
 
nd theres a personal factor in that, i feel i will feel very out of place there, in regards to everything, food, people, language, overall aspect of the city, like i cant imagine myself landing in manila, alone, after 30 uncomfortable hours of flight, with no one to receive me
Honestly i have never tried getting women in my country, i dont really know why, i guess a lack of confidence and a lack of "trying" to do so in tinder/IG, i feel i dont want to "experience" with women here, i know it sounds weird af since its such a big city, but i dont want to screw up here so to speak since everyone is so interconnected, all my friends and people i ever met are usually friends with/know people i met in other places, and its all such a big "network" that i feel if you get into a relationship it should usually be to "stay" with it, sure you could change, but people are going to talk about it a lot.
sounds like you're a major anxietycel

first you say you're anxious about going to Asia, because you don't know anyone there, and can't imagine having nobody to welcome you - and now you say you're too anxious to even attempt picking up women in Buenos Aires, because people know you and will spread gossip if you mess up (even though the city has 13 million people JFL)

considering that you're tall, supposedly normal looking, and obviously not retarded, I think the anxiety thing is your biggest holdup. you've got to address that somehow. you don't want to be the guy who wastes money on flights and hotels, but ends up rotting in his room because he's afraid to talk to strangers.
 

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