honestly i also wish my perception worked that way because it would make life so much easier.
i have a chinese 4 simping for me in berlin since years. she does everything, cooks a different sophisticated dish every time i visit her, gives me long massages, is always available for sex. i could take her wherever i want but i don't wanna be in public with her because she's so clingy that it's embarrassing and annoying. i declined a relationship and told her we couldn't meet anymore because she became too attached. she was crying buckets and then accepted the situation that a relationship will not happen. since then she is just part of my local safety net against inceldom.
she is a very ambitious person and still believes one day she'll convince me. but i can't trick myself into believing she was a 7 or whatever just because she does all these things, even though that would probably be the most convenient way for me to live life... i hate to say it but i will probably never love her, whatever she does. life is unfair.