Rance
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I used HelloTalk on and off for the 2 years I lived in Japan, have used it for countless dates, and some of my best experiences have been with girls from HelloTalk. It is the only app I seriously used for meeting women.
This guide will be written from the perspective of a Westerner in Japan. You may apply most of the principles to geomaxxing in other countries, but since my experience is with Japan, some information will be location-specific.
Why HelloTalk?
HelloTalk, unlike a lot of dating apps, has some unique characteristics that make it great for meeting women. In particular, it’s not a dating app. That’s actually a good thing because:
Warning!
There’s one caveat. If you overtly use the app for "dating purposes" you will get banned. I even saw a girl get banned because she made a status asking if anyone was interested in a date. If you get banned, they don’t just ban your account, they fingerprint your device and make it impossible to log in with your device ever again. So keep it light and don’t give girls reasons to block/report you.
Oh yeah, and don’t mention any politics or stuff to do with China.
A girl I know got her post shadow banned for sharing sexy pics. She sent me this info she received regarding HelloTalk’s rules for posts/comments:

When to Use HelloTalk
In hindsight, I would avoid creating a HelloTalk account too long before coming to Japan. There are several reasons for this.
Generally, it is difficult to keep up momentum. If you create an account, say, two months before you arrive, you will have to juggle many conversations for weeks on end without having the opportunity to meet with them in person. Predictably, I lost a lot of opportunities from this.
More specifically, when you create an account, you are put on some kind of “new user showcase” list. Within the first hour I got 10-15 messages. This would have been a lot more beneficial if it had been closer to my date of arrival.
If you are foreigner coming to Japan, I would advise creating your HelloTalk account around 1-3 weeks prior to arrival. Gives you some time to build up a presence without losing people to attrition.
Your Profile
Not that important except for your picture. Stand out in small ways if you can.

Your Posts
This is where the meat of girls’ curiosity in you is generated. A good profile picture in combination with an attractive timeline is what makes girls respond to your messages despite being hit up by countless other guys.
It may feel like there’s a lot of competition, but there’s actually very little quality competition. Most guys have really boring profiles that make them look the same as every other guy. They’re not in Japan, their pictures suck, every post has only 3 likes, etc.
These are just guidelines but the main goal is to get as many likes on your posts as possible, to look as socially proofed and attractive as possible. Lots of girls commenting is also a bonus. Aim for around 70 likes per quality post in the beginning, and scale up to hundreds.
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This guide will be written from the perspective of a Westerner in Japan. You may apply most of the principles to geomaxxing in other countries, but since my experience is with Japan, some information will be location-specific.
Why HelloTalk?
HelloTalk, unlike a lot of dating apps, has some unique characteristics that make it great for meeting women. In particular, it’s not a dating app. That’s actually a good thing because:
- It gives you access to girls who aren’t on dating apps. Hot girls don’t need to use dating apps, and if they do they’re absolutely inundated. On HelloTalk it’s not unusual to see kyaba class girls, and you can just message them -- no need to match or pay money.
- It’s an SNS app. That means you can use social proof to get girls without relying purely on a few photos and an essentially meaningless bio. It’s more akin to Instagram than Tinder.
- It’s a language learning app. A lot of girls are happy to talk a lot and even call with you. You can talk and call with girls all around the country to practice your Japanese, text game, vibing and cutting deep, and improve your cultural knowledge. Basically, even girls who live far away or who don’t get out can help you to improve these other aspects of your game.
Warning!
There’s one caveat. If you overtly use the app for "dating purposes" you will get banned. I even saw a girl get banned because she made a status asking if anyone was interested in a date. If you get banned, they don’t just ban your account, they fingerprint your device and make it impossible to log in with your device ever again. So keep it light and don’t give girls reasons to block/report you.
Oh yeah, and don’t mention any politics or stuff to do with China.
A girl I know got her post shadow banned for sharing sexy pics. She sent me this info she received regarding HelloTalk’s rules for posts/comments:

When to Use HelloTalk
In hindsight, I would avoid creating a HelloTalk account too long before coming to Japan. There are several reasons for this.
Generally, it is difficult to keep up momentum. If you create an account, say, two months before you arrive, you will have to juggle many conversations for weeks on end without having the opportunity to meet with them in person. Predictably, I lost a lot of opportunities from this.
More specifically, when you create an account, you are put on some kind of “new user showcase” list. Within the first hour I got 10-15 messages. This would have been a lot more beneficial if it had been closer to my date of arrival.
If you are foreigner coming to Japan, I would advise creating your HelloTalk account around 1-3 weeks prior to arrival. Gives you some time to build up a presence without losing people to attrition.
Your Profile
Not that important except for your picture. Stand out in small ways if you can.
- Profile picture
Choose your best picture, ideally looking cool and handsome. Generally speaking the best profile pics are looking away from the camera but still showing your face, looking thoughtful rather than smiling, and hinting at qualities like good fashion sense, fun lifestyle, that you have money, etc. Basically you should go with the coolest pic you have. Use filters on your pics. For selfies download an app like カメラ360, b612, BeautyPlus or SNOW. Or, at the least, LINE Camera. They’ll give you perfect skin, bring out the color of your eyes, even adjust the proportions/symmetry of your face. Find some filters that suit your style. Make yourself ikemen.
- Name
Keep it simple. Use your real name or a cute nickname. It is probably best to use English characters since HT girls are learning English and think it looks cooler. You can’t use special characters like ✰ orbut you can use this tool to write in styles like: 𝘙𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦, 𝓡𝓪𝓷𝓬𝓮, 𝑹𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆
- Location
This is the location you want girls to associate with you. Set it to the most convenient place where you intend to have the majority of your dates. Next time you’re in that location, update your location to there, then disable it from updating automatically. There is also a feature to search for people in "your area", which will use this location as well.
- Bio
Doesn’t really matter. Short and simple is fine. Write it in your personal style if you have one. I like to write all in lowercase and use animal emojis, but that’s totally unnecessary. Just do what you like.

Your Posts
This is where the meat of girls’ curiosity in you is generated. A good profile picture in combination with an attractive timeline is what makes girls respond to your messages despite being hit up by countless other guys.
It may feel like there’s a lot of competition, but there’s actually very little quality competition. Most guys have really boring profiles that make them look the same as every other guy. They’re not in Japan, their pictures suck, every post has only 3 likes, etc.
These are just guidelines but the main goal is to get as many likes on your posts as possible, to look as socially proofed and attractive as possible. Lots of girls commenting is also a bonus. Aim for around 70 likes per quality post in the beginning, and scale up to hundreds.
- Stick to posts around the “big 5” topics: food, travel, fashion, entertainment, relationships. I’ve written these roughly in order of priority. Food and travel are best because they appeal equally to both men and women and thus maximize that like count. Food edges out travel because travel requires more effort. Some fashion posts are good just to make you look more attractive to girls reading your timeline and get girls commenting how fashionable you are. Pics of you having fun with friends, with animals, etc., are also good. You can also "borrow" some good looking travel pics from insta of places you’ve been to. No reason to limit yourself to your own photos and it’s probably much easier.
- Every post should have at least 1 photo. 3 photos, 6 or 9 are better because it’s more aesthetic. If you have only 1 photo, consider splitting it into 9 photos to effectively enlarge it. I used the app PhotoSplit for this purpose.
- Write in perfect Japanese if you can so people aren’t correcting you all the time. Japanese is better than English because your audience can read it with zero effort. That said, I like to mix Japanese with simple English sentences like you see in song lyrics.
- Your goal is both quality and quantity. Quality is what makes your profile attractive and you should have a timeline full of quality posts. But quantity is a low effort way to drive engagement and more views to your profile. A girl might tap on your profile from a low effort text-only post, but then drop likes on your quality posts and become curious about you. Delete low quality posts after an hour.
- The time you post your quality posts matters. You want them to be viewed by as many people as possible, so post when a lot of people are online, ideally around 8:00 PM to 9:00 PM. Reply to all of your comments, and take any cute girls to your DMs.
- Bonus: Make quality posts for seasonal events like Christmas, Halloween, Easter, etc., as HelloTalk editors sift through these posts and if they think yours is quality, they can mark it as 特集 and you’ll get thousands of views and hundreds and hundreds of likes.
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