I don’t understand why anyone would have a long term relationship with a non virgin. There is too many risks to dating girls with ex’s and its completely irrational to do so. Lets go over them:
1. There is no good way to end a relationship
A relationship either ends on good terms like moving to different cities or it ends on bad terms like the partner cheating. If it ended on good terms there is always a chance it could reignite. If it ended on bad terms then she went through heartbreak and is now more damaged.
2. Virgins wont hold back with love
A girl who hasn’t been broken yet will not hold back when it comes to loving you. They are way more likely to give you everything and it has a high chance of developing into codependency if you actively manage her.
3. Girls develop hedging as defense strategy
After the first heartbreak girls will never want to go through that again so they limit their love. They make backup plans and keep other guys open to reduce the chance of complete failure again.
4. Comparison
You will always be compared to ex’s. She will take parts where past guys were better at and wonder if she can find another guy who combines everything. A girl whose only experience is you may wonder what its like to date others but the fear of losing what she has will likely be too high.
5. Trauma and high risk personalities
Girls with many ex’s are more at risk of stuff like Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissism, etc. These are catastrophic for the relationship. You will always have to worry about triggering past trauma from an ex. For example, you say the word “leaving” and you might accidentally trigger something for a girl who was abandoned…
6. Numbness and reduced pair bonding
Girls produce so much ocytocin during sex. Ocytocin is just like any chemical (dopamine, caffeine, alcohol, drugs, etc) the more you have the less it effects you.
Personally, I am seeking out a girl with anxiety who is a virgin. I want a girl who has a high initial barrier to dating but once im in she is codependent and I don’t have to worry about divorce. Obviously she will be clingy af but that is the tradeoff. I think it’s worth it for complete loyalty.
The problem is you only have until like around 26 to get a virgin without being completely older than her and just attracting with money which is more fragile long term. I think most people wait too long and end up in a terrible market.
1. There is no good way to end a relationship
A relationship either ends on good terms like moving to different cities or it ends on bad terms like the partner cheating. If it ended on good terms there is always a chance it could reignite. If it ended on bad terms then she went through heartbreak and is now more damaged.
2. Virgins wont hold back with love
A girl who hasn’t been broken yet will not hold back when it comes to loving you. They are way more likely to give you everything and it has a high chance of developing into codependency if you actively manage her.
3. Girls develop hedging as defense strategy
After the first heartbreak girls will never want to go through that again so they limit their love. They make backup plans and keep other guys open to reduce the chance of complete failure again.
4. Comparison
You will always be compared to ex’s. She will take parts where past guys were better at and wonder if she can find another guy who combines everything. A girl whose only experience is you may wonder what its like to date others but the fear of losing what she has will likely be too high.
5. Trauma and high risk personalities
Girls with many ex’s are more at risk of stuff like Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissism, etc. These are catastrophic for the relationship. You will always have to worry about triggering past trauma from an ex. For example, you say the word “leaving” and you might accidentally trigger something for a girl who was abandoned…
6. Numbness and reduced pair bonding
Girls produce so much ocytocin during sex. Ocytocin is just like any chemical (dopamine, caffeine, alcohol, drugs, etc) the more you have the less it effects you.
Personally, I am seeking out a girl with anxiety who is a virgin. I want a girl who has a high initial barrier to dating but once im in she is codependent and I don’t have to worry about divorce. Obviously she will be clingy af but that is the tradeoff. I think it’s worth it for complete loyalty.
The problem is you only have until like around 26 to get a virgin without being completely older than her and just attracting with money which is more fragile long term. I think most people wait too long and end up in a terrible market.
