AlexBrown84
INFP - 23 years old - Been to 30+ countries
- Jul 31, 2022
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Getting a girlfriend like Misaki Nakahara from Welcome to the NHK — a complex, emotionally invested girl who takes a deep interest in “saving” a shut-in — is a loaded goal. Misaki is a fictional character with a blend of savior complex, loneliness, mystery, and quiet devotion. In real life, seeking someone with her traits needs to be approached carefully and ethically. Here’s a breakdown of where to go, what to work on, and how to ethically approach this type of relationship.
Best Places to Go
To meet someone with Misaki-like traits — kind-hearted, slightly mysterious, patient, nurturing, possibly lonely, and interested in “fixing” others — consider places with the following traits:
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Japan – Especially Suburban Tokyo or a Small Town
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South Korea – University Towns like Daegu or Gwangju
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Russia (Moscow or Saint Petersburg)
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Eastern/Central Europe – Especially Hungary, Czechia, or Poland

To meet someone with Misaki-like traits — kind-hearted, slightly mysterious, patient, nurturing, possibly lonely, and interested in “fixing” others — consider places with the following traits:
1.
Japan – Especially Suburban Tokyo or a Small Town
- Why: Misaki is a product of Japanese societal dynamics — pressure, loneliness, and a culture that quietly enables savior complexes.
- Places to consider: Kichijoji (Tokyo suburb with a gentle atmosphere), Sapporo (quiet but youthful), or Sendai.
- Look in: Language exchange groups, psychology/self-help clubs, NPOs helping hikikomori or NEETs, or even certain university counseling volunteer programs.
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South Korea – University Towns like Daegu or Gwangju
- Similar societal dynamics: isolation, mental health stigma, and a growing female interest in psychology and healing.
- Korean women in psychology or social work fields might match Misaki’s caretaker drive.
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Russia (Moscow or Saint Petersburg)
- There’s a niche of women, especially in psychology or art circles, with an intense emotional depth and interest in melancholic, introverted men.
- Look for meetup groups, niche cafes, or even online forums about philosophy or Dostoevskian themes.
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Eastern/Central Europe – Especially Hungary, Czechia, or Poland
- You may find introverted but nurturing types, especially in literature, art, or psychology circles.
- Less pressure to “perform masculinity” can make space for you to be open about vulnerability, which may attract Misaki-type women.