Girls are similar to gambling addicts

[myeyes]

Obviously this is a black pill forum and looks are the most important thing, but from my experience (maybe I’m wrong) the second most important thing is acting like an RNG gatcha machine. Random response times, sometimes super fast, sometimes super slow, random switches in the way you talk to her, random attitude changes, just generally being unpredictable and different from other guys.

My suspicion is the dopamine spikes are similar to gambling and is addicting to women, though I can’t explain why guys don’t work like this because men get addicted to gambling too. When girls do this most guys get “the ick” from a personality point of view.

I learnt a lot of this from my insane ex who was super hot but mentally damaged, if I acted like a normal person it probably would have ended at a one night stand instead of 8 months fwb.
But the sad part is it seems to work on “normal” women too.

And it sort of sucks because I genuinely want to act like a normal person but acting like an RNG generator just works better so you gotta do what you gotta do you know, such is life

 

[myeyes]

Oh yeah I should clarify there’s times you don’t need to do this:
1. She is a wholesome girl (wife material) and you can just be a normal guy
2. You mog her with your smv

 

[Rance]

Great observation, although I'm not sold on the gambling explanation. This is related to the long-standing idea of "push and pull" dynamics. Put the pressure on, then take it off. Give attention, then revoke it. Ideally, your love and attention should be suspended in a kind of limbo from which it's impossible to tell when it will come back.

You can further use this fickle unpredictability to "develop" girls as you choose. Let some extra stable attention out when she's acting in a way you want, but shut the valve when she's acting distant, bitchy, or otherwise unloving.

I truly believe that women's love is firmly rooted in scarcity. That is, her genuine love for you goes up when she thinks she doesn't completely "have" you. This is a grim reality but it's not so bad once you settle into it.

 

[Frank Underwood]

most men live such dopamine deprived lives that they end up marrying the first girl who gives them attention. on the other hand women live life on ultra easy mode and end up being attracted to weird things like that. what surprised me the most is how accurate preselection theory is. it’s completely the opposite of how a guy feels about a girl with tons of potential boyfriends.

 

[kamster]

Random response times, sometimes super fast, sometimes super slow, random switches in the way you talk to her, random attitude changes, just generally being unpredictable and different from other guys.

that would explain why ugly rat like me fucks models
and JBW is a law

 

[ExcuseMe]

But the sad part is it seems to work on “normal” women too. And it sort of sucks because I genuinely want to act like a normal person

I truly believe that women's love is firmly rooted in scarcity. That is, her genuine love for you goes up when she thinks she doesn't completely "have" you. This is a grim reality but it's not so bad once you settle into it.

very true. with my ex, I actually liked her and wanted to treat her well consistently, but she would act the most lovey-dovey after a fight when I threatened a breakup. and she was very much a normal woman, not some stereotypical fatherless BPD case.
by now I think that maintaining this feeling of scarcity (that you don't really need her), or even deliberately stoking jealousy, is a crucial to keeping the relationship healthy.

 

[myeyes]

Great observation, although I'm not sold on the gambling explanation. This is related to the long-standing idea of "push and pull" dynamics. Put the pressure on, then take it off. Give attention, then revoke it. Ideally, your love and attention should be suspended in a kind of limbo from which it's impossible to tell when it will come back.

You can further use this fickle unpredictability to "develop" girls as you choose. Let some extra stable attention out when she's acting in a way you want, but shut the valve when she's acting distant, bitchy, or otherwise unloving.

I truly believe that women's love is firmly rooted in scarcity. That is, her genuine love for you goes up when she thinks she doesn't completely "have" you. This is a grim reality but it's not so bad once you settle into it.

I find it really hard to do if I really like the girl. But I like the part about developing girls by opening and closing the attention valve. But I’m probably too autistic to not fuck it up lol

 

[geneblackman]

She needs to have it in her mind that you have options, that you're talking to other people, that she isn't the center of your life. This is the focal point of their attraction and why they go after the top guys

Not all the time but every once in awhile bring up (or lie) in a casual but nonchalant way that some other woman started a friendly conversation with you, that maybe another woman let you have an item for free, or that one went out of their way to do something to help you

 

[younglivinglife]

I don't feel like this matters as much as being authentic with what you want

 

[Rance]

I don't feel like this matters as much as being authentic with what you want

If you don't want to obsess over the details, you can think of it like this: treat a girl you're dating (or even married to) like it's the first week you met her. In the early days, you are inherently mysterious, and the girl doesn't quite know what makes you tick.

This extends to everything, like looksmaxxing being a lifetime pursuit, not something you do to "get" a girl and then abandon once you "have" her.

I often see normie reels on Instagram about long-term relationships that are supposed to be cute. They sometimes will use little animated cats instead of real people (iykyk). The format is like, "when we first met vs. dating for years". When they first met the guy is suave and cool, and in the later part the guy is fat, confessing his insecurities, farting in bed with the girl, etc., basically too comfortable in the relationship. This is framed as a cute thing but it's not something you want to emulate.

Ever hear girls complain that the "spark" is gone, or that the guy isn't the "same guy" she met at first? This is that at work

Edit: On the less cynical side, this also means treating her well forever. Lots of guys are kind in the beginning and become sort of moody assholes later in the relationship

 

[RetireAndCope]

If you don't want to obsess over the details, you can think of it like this: treat a girl you're dating (or even married to) like it's the first week you met her. In the early days, you are inherently mysterious, and the girl doesn't quite know what makes you tick.

This extends to everything, like looksmaxxing being a lifetime pursuit, not something you do to "get" a girl and then abandon once you "have" her.

I often see normie reels on Instagram about long-term relationships that are supposed to be cute. They sometimes will use little animated cats instead of real people (iykyk). The format is like, "when we first met vs. dating for years". When they first met the guy is suave and cool, and in the later part the guy is fat, confessing his insecurities, farting in bed with the girl, etc., basically too comfortable in the relationship. This is framed as a cute thing but it's not something you want to emulate.

Ever hear girls complain that the "spark" is gone, or that the guy isn't the "same guy" she met at first? This is that at work

Edit: On the less cynical side, this also means treating her well forever. Lots of guys are kind in the beginning and become sort of moody assholes later in the relationship

When you think about it this is an extension of a pretty bitter blackpill you have to deal with. You will never find comfort in the bosom of a woman. You can never get comfortable in a relationship.

The flipside being, wouldn't you just get tired of this after a while? I feel like everyone should become somewhat like biggunsar over time. Don't care about anything and if they start showing signs start immediately start making your way to the exit. You had your turn. Should be less stressful right?

 

[Marco Pumpo]

Oh yeah I should clarify there’s times you don’t need to do this:
1. She is a wholesome girl (wife material) and you can just be a normal guy
2. You mog her with your smv

yes.

if you want a healthy relationship you should be careful with those "ick" provoking random ass actions because they can cause damage. you rather need to be like a rock in the waves, have your principles and show her the boundaries if she's trying to walk over you.

and yes, if you SMV mog her significantly, it doesn't matter. you can basically behave as you like.