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As many of you know I've recently arrived in China.

As many of you also know I'm the biggest shill for HelloTalk.

Well, I've never really used traditional dating apps, but after using Tinder for a couple days I have WAY more messages than I know how to deal with, and I think I'm getting a couple dates lined up now. I only swiped on girls I really liked too.

I just don't have enough time for HelloTalk. I'll always fight for its efficacy but with Tinder, at least I know the girls are immediately sexually interested in me. Each individual "lead" is worth more than HelloTalk in my opinion, so I'm focusing my time on Tinder.

I will at some point create a proper post detailing my China experience so far, and of course, include the visa and immigration guide as promised.
 
Do you think LATAM is as easy as Asia? I want to geomax, but asians have boyish bodies which makes me feel like faggot. But i like women from south america.
 
Do you think LATAM is as easy as Asia? I want to geomax, but asians have boyish bodies which makes me feel like faggot. But i like women from south america.
My impression is that LATAM can be as easy as Asia depending heavily on your phenotype. Tall, wide, muscular, tan skin, beard, that kind of stuff will take you far in LATAM. Conversely: middling height, skinny, lean, light skin, clean shaven, that kind of stuff will take you far in Asia. So you have to judge yourself honestly to see how your SMV will measure up.

That being said I know literally zero about LATAM so maybe one of our resident LATAM experts could chime in.
 
My impression is that LATAM can be as easy as Asia depending heavily on your phenotype. Tall, wide, muscular, tan skin, beard, that kind of stuff will take you far in LATAM. Conversely: middling height, skinny, lean, light skin, clean shaven, that kind of stuff will take you far in Asia. So you have to judge yourself honestly to see how your SMV will measure up.

That being said I know literally zero about LATAM so maybe one of our resident LATAM experts could chime in.
What would you consider tall? Like 6 ft is good enough?
 
What would you consider tall? Like 6 ft is good enough?
No clue, depends on the country. Can't speak to LATAM at all, I think some countries like in Central America are a bit shorter whereas the islands with more black blood, or the white countries like Argentina + Chile are taller. Speaking out my ass now though since I know nothing about the region.

6 ft would do you crazy good in Asia tho

For Asia, if you're concerned about boyish figures, you might want to read into @Orientalist 's science, apparently there are squishy thicc girls in Vietnam for instance
 
No clue, depends on the country. Can't speak to LATAM at all, I think some countries like in Central America are a bit shorter whereas the islands with more black blood, or the white countries like Argentina + Chile are taller. Speaking out my ass now though since I know nothing about the region.

6 ft would do you crazy good in Asia tho

For Asia, if you're concerned about boyish figures, you might want to read into @Orientalist 's science, apparently there are squishy thicc girls in Vietnam for instance
Dude i will research vietnam like crazy. I want to fuck thich bitches so much lol
 
I didn't realize Tinder was good in China. Are there a lot of filters and scammers? Have you tried TanTan? I changed my location on Tantan years ago and women would send me voice messages wanting me to meet them at their apartments. I don't know if it's still legit or not
 
As many of you know I've recently arrived in China.

As many of you also know I'm the biggest shill for HelloTalk.

Well, I've never really used traditional dating apps, but after using Tinder for a couple days I have WAY more messages than I know how to deal with, and I think I'm getting a couple dates lined up now. I only swiped on girls I really liked too.

I just don't have enough time for HelloTalk. I'll always fight for its efficacy but with Tinder, at least I know the girls are immediately sexually interested in me. Each individual "lead" is worth more than HelloTalk in my opinion, so I'm focusing my time on Tinder.

I will at some point create a proper post detailing my China experience so far, and of course, include the visa and immigration guide as promised.
All fun and games until you run out of girls in the city before long. Even Beijing I ran out of swipes in like an hour or something I swear. Maybe the Hangzhou/Shanghai area is different tho idk.
(On that note, even Hinge is a good choice in Shanghai. Bumble is good country-wide)
 
No clue, depends on the country. Can't speak to LATAM at all, I think some countries like in Central America are a bit shorter whereas the islands with more black blood, or the white countries like Argentina + Chile are taller. Speaking out my ass now though since I know nothing about the region.

6 ft would do you crazy good in Asia tho

For Asia, if you're concerned about boyish figures, you might want to read into @Orientalist 's science, apparently there are squishy thicc girls in Vietnam for instance
“Squishy” refers to the cheeks sadly. The ones on the face. Vietnamese girls are built like 12 year olds usually. I knew one who lived in America for quite some time though and she was thick. Idk what’s in the food supply here.
 
As many of you know I've recently arrived in China.

As many of you also know I'm the biggest shill for HelloTalk.

Well, I've never really used traditional dating apps, but after using Tinder for a couple days I have WAY more messages than I know how to deal with, and I think I'm getting a couple dates lined up now. I only swiped on girls I really liked too.

I just don't have enough time for HelloTalk. I'll always fight for its efficacy but with Tinder, at least I know the girls are immediately sexually interested in me. Each individual "lead" is worth more than HelloTalk in my opinion, so I'm focusing my time on Tinder.

I will at some point create a proper post detailing my China experience so far, and of course, include the visa and immigration guide as promised.
In Chongqing ?
 
What would you consider tall? Like 6 ft is good enough?
Solid 6ft is tall most places, in LATAM you should be fine.
Do you think LATAM is as easy as Asia? I want to geomax, but asians have boyish bodies which makes me feel like faggot. But i like women from south america.
If you like South American women just go, check out this thread - https://geomax.me/threads/ranking-cities-in-latam-in-terms-of-dating-difficulty.7517/#post-83840
 
All fun and games until you run out of girls in the city before long. Even Beijing I ran out of swipes in like an hour or something I swear. Maybe the Hangzhou/Shanghai area is different tho idk.
(On that note, even Hinge is a good choice in Shanghai. Bumble is good country-wide)
I still haven't swiped enough to hit the free daily swipe limit, let alone to run out of all the girls in the area. And I have 19 matches, which is probably enough for now. Most of them are <25km away or so too

I will definitely give Bumble and Hinge a look!
 
I didn't realize Tinder was good in China. Are there a lot of filters and scammers? Have you tried TanTan? I changed my location on Tantan years ago and women would send me voice messages wanting me to meet them at their apartments. I don't know if it's still legit or not
Everyone so far seems legitimate, except for one girl (my first match) who wanted my WeChat really bad and now constantly sends me messages like "I want a rich boyfriend" and "give me money it's my birthday". So probably a sugar baby fishing for a paycheck.

Tinder in Japan IS all hookers and fake profiles, which is very different from my experience with it in China.

I haven't tried Tantan yet. I've heard around the block that its glory days are over and it's mostly scammers. But, for geomax research, I'll give it a try!
 
What are your stats?

Weren't you a lifemogger, even by normie standards?
5.5 non-psl, basically strong MTN erring on HTN. I get boosted higher in Asia by my slim features, blond hair, blue eyes, etc. About 177-178cm

Life was never bad for me, just boring and soul-draining. I got introduced to Asia through my fixation on Japan, and the geomaxxing came later. Had no plans to be a crazy player, but after arrival to Japan I realized how easy it was to have a lot of relationships with many pretty girls. Decided to delve into the specifics of that and the rest is history.

Unrelated update: I found using GPT (or preferably Gemini) to write messages is quite good. Here's the caveat: ask the AI to write your messages at your current Chinese level. For me that would be HSK2. Then read them back and make sure you understand them. I like to use prompts like "write it naturally and casually", while explaining the context of it being flirtatious on a dating app.
 
5.5 non-psl, basically strong MTN erring on HTN. I get boosted higher in Asia by my slim features, blond hair, blue eyes, etc. About 177-178cm

Life was never bad for me, just boring and soul-draining. I got introduced to Asia through my fixation on Japan, and the geomaxxing came later. Had no plans to be a crazy player, but after arrival to Japan I realized how easy it was to have a lot of relationships with many pretty girls. Decided to delve into the specifics of that and the rest is history.

Unrelated update: I found using GPT (or preferably Gemini) to write messages is quite good. Here's the caveat: ask the AI to write your messages at your current Chinese level. For me that would be HSK2. Then read them back and make sure you understand them. I like to use prompts like "write it naturally and casually", while explaining the context of it being flirtatious on a dating app.
Damn, good stats overall, couldn't have expected less ig. On that note how would a slim face and gymcelled body do in Japan?

I'm honestly so done with motherland and I'm really young, so any knowledge parsed from here benefits me tremendously.

Also jfl at using AI to text bitches, genius
 
Damn, good stats overall, couldn't have expected less ig. On that note how would a slim face and gymcelled body do in Japan?

I'm honestly so done with motherland and I'm really young, so any knowledge parsed from here benefits me tremendously.

Also jfl at using AI to text bitches, genius
More gym is always better. Even though I don't like to admit it since I'm a skinnycel, girls do stare at muscles if you have them. That being said the most important thing is to maintain a slim frame. The "thin but muscular" look in Japan is called 細マッチョ (hosomacho) and is sort of the ideal, so google that for reference for the ideal body type.

See this post in another thread for my rambling thoughts on white looks standards in Japan: https://geomax.me/threads/i-live-in-tokyo-ask-me-anything.6385/post-70718

I am also assuming you're white. If not, it's totally fine, but you'll have completely different SMV goals. E.g., all black guys do better when they're bigger and stronger, blockier faces rather than slim, etc.
 
5.5 non-psl, basically strong MTN erring on HTN. I get boosted higher in Asia by my slim features, blond hair, blue eyes, etc. About 177-178cm
Either I'm doing something wrong, Japanese women truly prefer MTN or they think I'm a catfish because I can't get through to most of them after a few initial exchanges despite being able to attract white women, Chinese, HTB latinas

What does your first conversation with them usually look like? I'm usually very direct and open so maybe that's why.
 
I still haven't swiped enough to hit the free daily swipe limit, let alone to run out of all the girls in the area. And I have 19 matches, which is probably enough for now. Most of them are <25km away or so too

I will definitely give Bumble and Hinge a look!
Yeah I wasn’t sure if you were setting it to 25~50km or max radius “Hellotalk-style” which is why I mentioned Shanghai/nearby cities.
Obviously focusing on nearby is best, especially for short-term travel. But yeah by “run out of swipes” I meant running out of girls in a 25~50km (whatever I set it as) area before it just showed me a blank screen saying there’s noone left in the area. (Which isn’t true in an absolute sense - the algorithm does slowly trickle girls it wasn’t showing you before but you’re still effectively cooked at that point). This can happen in like 5 minutes in the smaller cities lol. If these 2-3 main dating apps were as popular in China as they were elsewhere like in SEA/the west it would be madness.
But yeah I’m pretty sure TanTan is a total meme filled with scammers but I’d like to be proven wrong. I used it and had no idea wtf was going on.
(TanTan IS okay for reverse geomaxxing though with international students, since some real people definitely do use it and the number of bots in random North American/European cities is pretty negligible)
 
For good or just a break?
I will be coming back rapidly 👍
I have been spamming Hanzi hero lately, reaching HSK2 apparently.

How do you like Hangzhou so far ? I remember it was pretty good, the lake area is quite stunning and the city is pretty developed.
The heat must be brutal though.
 
Either I'm doing something wrong, Japanese women truly prefer MTN or they think I'm a catfish because I can't get through to most of them after a few initial exchanges despite being able to attract white women, Chinese, HTB latinas

What does your first conversation with them usually look like? I'm usually very direct and open so maybe that's why.
Yeah Japan is a very different ball game in terms of how you gotta talk, walk, text, dress, and behave in general. I've said it before and I'll say it again, what they want is a "Japanese guy in a foreign body". I recommend watching anime and dramas with a focus on serious romance, try to emulate the patterns of the "ikemen" guys in those media. It's too much for me to explain in one go, but in general there's an emphasis on being mysterious, soft-spoken, and subtle.

I already get the feeling that Chinese people are much more similar to Americans than they are to Japanese. Japan is just truly a very unique country in terms of social psychology.
 
I will be coming back rapidly 👍
I have been spamming Hanzi hero lately, reaching HSK2 apparently.

How do you like Hangzhou so far ? I remember it was pretty good, the lake area is quite stunning and the city is pretty developed.
The heat must be brutal though.
Grats on 600 hanzi then, that's more than I have

Hangzhou is a good-sized city, the right balance, imo. The downtown area next to the lake (Hubin Yintai in77 I think it's called) is slammed with more stuff than you'd know what to do with. The heat is brutal for most people but I quite enjoy it, as long as it doesn't go above 37 degrees or so, which it rarely does outside of the afternoon.

Hangzhou is noticeably more "PG" than Tokyo, in a way that's hard to explain. In Tokyo, there's a lot of dirt and grime, and you hear a lot of people yelling and screaming in the streets, people openly drinking beer and stumbling around, even sleeping on the street, etc. In Hangzhou it is very "pristine", even in what is supposedly the nightlife district there is no trash on the ground, you see a lot of children with their parents, nobody drinking alcohol in public, people seem calmer and more restrained, and the whole city goes dark after about midnight.
 
Yeah Japan is a very different ball game in terms of how you gotta talk, walk, text, dress, and behave in general. I've said it before and I'll say it again, what they want is a "Japanese guy in a foreign body". I recommend watching anime and dramas with a focus on serious romance, try to emulate the patterns of the "ikemen" guys in those media. It's too much for me to explain in one go, but in general there's an emphasis on being mysterious, soft-spoken, and subtle.

I already get the feeling that Chinese people are much more similar to Americans than they are to Japanese. Japan is just truly a very unique country in terms of social psychology.
Do you have any recommendations for dramas or anime to watch? If everything goes well, I'm going to Japan this year-end. I've been saving money since the beginning of the year for that.
 
Do you have any recommendations for dramas or anime to watch? If everything goes well, I'm going to Japan this year-end. I've been saving money since the beginning of the year for that.
"DNA2" is an older anime that's literally about a guy whose goal is to impregnate as many women as possible. Pretty funny and can teach you some cheesy romantic lines.

Great Teacher Onizuka is an awesome classic about a teacher, can't go wrong watching it, I wouldn't emulate 95% of the speech in this show but about once per episode Onizuka changes into "serious teacher" mode which is good speech to emulate.

Romance anime movies I've seen are kimi no na wa, A Silent Voice, and "I want to eat your pancreas". First two are good, third is mid. Kimi no na wa is a must watch. All provide natural dialogue throughout
 
Do you have any recommendations for dramas or anime to watch? If everything goes well, I'm going to Japan this year-end. I've been saving money since the beginning of the year for that.
Don't watch anime. Watch movies from the golden age of Japanese cinema. Think Toshiro Mifune. Anime will have you looking like a huge dork.
 
Don't watch anime. Watch movies from the golden age of Japanese cinema. Think Toshiro Mifune. Anime will have you looking like a huge dork.
Anime is like the football of Japan, you will be bullied, or at best seen as strange if you don't stay up to date with the references and culture around it

tbh, I currently prefer series or movies about cute Japanese girls over anime
"1 litre of tears" is the top rated Japanese drama of all time, but very sad, watch out
 
Anime is like the football of Japan, you will be bullied, or at best seen as strange if you don't stay up to date with the references and culture around it


"1 litre of tears" is the top rated Japanese drama of all time, but very sad, watch out
If you've ever been to Japan, does penis size matter to Japanese women? I'm 10cm
 
More gym is always better. Even though I don't like to admit it since I'm a skinnycel, girls do stare at muscles if you have them. That being said the most important thing is to maintain a slim frame. The "thin but muscular" look in Japan is called 細マッチョ (hosomacho) and is sort of the ideal, so google that for reference for the ideal body type.

See this post in another thread for my rambling thoughts on white looks standards in Japan: https://geomax.me/threads/i-live-in-tokyo-ask-me-anything.6385/post-70718

I am also assuming you're white. If not, it's totally fine, but you'll have completely different SMV goals. E.g., all black guys do better when they're bigger and stronger, blockier faces rather than slim, etc.
Thanks for the heads up, I searched this type of physique and they are pretty dyel, or to better say realistic and achievable in comparison to what even teen foids on western tt want.

Also yes I am white, just not blond and blue eyed, 179 cm, 84 kg at 15%bf solid MTN, maybe HTN once I'm pretty lean. Even these are decent stats where I live, but not enough in comparison to the talent pool
 
If you've ever been to Japan, does penis size matter to Japanese women? I'm 10cm
I replied in your thread, yes it matters just like anywhere else, although the standard is probably a couple cm less than in the West

Thanks for the heads up, I searched this type of physique and they are pretty dyel, or to better say realistic and achievable in comparison to what even teen foids on western tt want.

Also yes I am white, just not blond and blue eyed, 179 cm, 84 kg at 15%bf solid MTN, maybe HTN once I'm pretty lean. Even these are decent stats where I live, but not enough in comparison to the talent pool
You'll do just fine in Japan, physically speaking. The only thing is getting the language skill up and getting your logistics right
 
I replied in your thread, yes it matters just like anywhere else, although the standard is probably a couple cm less than in the West


You'll do just fine in Japan, physically speaking. The only thing is getting the language skill up and getting your logistics right
Thanks for the advice man, planning to study abroad there for a year.
 
Anime is like the football of Japan, you will be bullied, or at best seen as strange if you don't stay up to date with the references and culture around it


"1 litre of tears" is the top rated Japanese drama of all time, but very sad, watch out
You're a foreigner everything will always be different for you. And the subject of the thread is about getting girls, not trying to fit in with people. You don't need to fit in with people at all to get girls.
 
You're a foreigner everything will always be different for you. And the subject of the thread is about getting girls, not trying to fit in with people. You don't need to fit in with people at all to get girls.
Agree to disagree here, fitting into top social circles is prime game. Yes, obviously you don't need to watch anime to pull girls, that's a ridiculous idea, but if you want to go crazy mode it's something to think about
 

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