Exactly right. If you are the kind of guy who goes unnoticed in a crowd and never catches a second glance from foids, dating apps in the West simply aren't gonna work for you. You'll have better luck in Asia, as foids there are more likely to go for a white guy who would be considered mid/bland/forgettably handsome in America. She doesn't want a boyfriend who will steal attention from her in public, i.e. a muscled GigaChad or a wild long-haired caveman type.
If you look odd, go all the way to stand out from the pack, don't try to blend in and look conventionally attractive. Important caveat, having a unique look and confidently embracing it will get you a lot of interest from white foids in America, particularly if you meet the 6' rule. But in Asia, looking strange will primarily get you subtle aversion responses from dating-eligible women, curious stares from young and old females. It's why people stereotype Asians as "bug people", because they have much more comformity in appearance than Amerimutts do.